Anonymous asked: I'm having a hard time letting go of my past. Do you still talk to people that hurt you the most? If people care about you why are they mean, does that mean they really don't and just want to make someone else feel like shit because they do?
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I wish I knew the exact “right” answer for you but the honest truth is, I don’t :(
I have a very hard time letting go of own my past! I have given out so many chances to people who didn’t even deserve a second one, but that’s love and that’s life. You’re going to get hurt by people and want to give them another a chance and hope that they wont take that second or third chance for granted, but most of the time (at least for me) they do. It’s hard for someone to change the way that they truly are. Maybe they don’t even realize how bad they are treating someone else? (Though a lot of people do just treat people like shit because of their lack of self-esteem!!!)
Ultimately you must make the decision to continue on with this relationship or call it quits. There’s a quote in the book, The Perks of Being a Wallflower and it’s: “We accept the love we think we deserve”. And I think that there is a great deal of truth to that. I think we really need to learn how to to step back and love ourselves before we love someone else more. No one else is going to protect and love your heart if you don’t first.
I don’t know, I really hope this helps. I’m currently at a point in my life where I need to just walk away from someone and though I know it’s the right decision, it still hurts like hell….So I can understand how hard this may be for you.
If you ever want to talk, my inbox is always open